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Stop the pity parties and instead be thankful

posted 10 May 2015, 04:38 by Tim Elliston   [ updated 14 May 2015, 05:33 ]
By Craig Ruvere

Whenever the game of life becomes challenging to navigate, I often lose myself in a sea of self-pity which does little to aid my reality.

It’s during these times when my thoughts are filled with negativity – dismissing the bountiful blessings I’ve been so richly provided in order to continue fostering the pity-party I’ve been throwing for myself.

But recently I was given a reminder that regardless of my struggles, I’m still more fortunate than most.

This weekend my wife and I were taking a leisurely stroll in a neighboring town.

As we rounded a nearby corner, we noticed a man sitting on a bench near the curb. He was obviously homeless by his unkempt appearance and his worldly possessions housed in a paper bag.

I was somewhat speechless as we passed by.

Here I was feeling sorry for myself about one thing or another, and yet there was this man with no home, money or support of any kind.

It was at that moment when I realized just how selfish I’d been behaving. How I was taking for granted so many wonderful things my life has been afforded in exchange for a reason to feel sorry for myself – to seek the pity of others in order to support my negative state.

Meister Eckhart once said, “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice.”

I suppose it’s time for me to stop the pity party and instead throw one for all the amazing people who fill my life with purpose and joy.

Craig Ruvere