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Embrace change and avoid pain

posted 10 May 2015, 05:08 by Tim Elliston   [ updated 14 May 2015, 04:34 ]
By Tonya Sheridan

One of the things that keeps people stuck in life is the fear of change. Often, as painful as it may be, they will stay in an unhealthy relationship, a job they hate, or a place that no longer serves them just to avoid change. If you feel this way, you are not alone. We have been conditioned to believe that change is hard, stressful, and should be avoided at all costs if we want to remain safe and comfortable. The truth is, as much as we try to avoid it, change will come and we have the choice to be empowered and create positive change or to stick our head in the sand until we are forced to change our situation.

If you want to make a change in your life but are afraid or if you are already going through a difficult change, how you choose to perceive it is what will determine your actual experience and outcome. In order to change your perception you must look at your current belief about change and replace it with a positive belief. You must also change your mindset and see change as an essential part of life and learn to flow with it.

Having faith in change is an essential part of having the right mindset. Have you ever noticed how some people seem to navigate through change with very little stress or anxiety? This is because they have a positive mindset and belief about change. While a person who resists change might have a belief that ” Change is hard and should be avoided at all costs”, a person with a positive mindset has an opposite belief such as ”Change always brings new opportunities and interesting people into my life.” By learning to change our perception we can have a completely different experience. Even if you are facing an extremely challenging time in your life, having a new mind-set about change will affect your experience and outcome.

People with a positive attitude about change take it one step further – they embrace change. They know that change is about growing and they find it exciting to find out what is on the other side of the transition. Even when change is forced upon them due to life circumstances, they trust that some good will come out of it and they make the best of their situation.

The first thing you must do to change your perception is to identify what thoughts you are feeding your mind about change. Begin paying attention to what you are saying to yourself and others. Having this awareness will enable you to change your negative beliefs into positive ones. Write down the thoughts that come to you about change or that you say to others and then turn them into a positive affirmation.

Look at an area of your life right now that you would like to change. Ask yourself what your life will look like one year from now if you do nothing. Then ask yourself what you would like it took look like and what one small step you could take to today to bring you that place.

If you are struggling with change right now in your life, imagine the good that could come from it. Visualize yourself a year from now and picture the best possible outcome that could come from what is happening today. Part of healing is being able to move forward and look for the positive. Strengthen your faith and care for yourself physically and emotionally.

Go easy on yourself and don’t expect to be able to change everything overnight. Embracing change and giving yourself some time will make your journey through change much easier.

copyright 2012 Tonya Sheridan

Tonya Sheridan