By Andi Evans
I have struggled with this my whole life, not really knowing or understanding what to make of it. On one hand, being the presence of love is grossly misunderstood. Being the presence of love means loving yourself fully. When you truly understand self-love, as opposed to selfish love, you have the opportunity to shine your light on the world, and truly help others. So what does this mean?
Loving yourself fully means being strong, being understanding, being compassionate, and being honest. Being honest with others is a piece of cake. (sometimes…) It's being honest with ourselves where we tend to fall short.
Being honest with ourselves means accepting no less than love as the answer to heal all wounds. And sometimes being love is walking away from situations, friendships, jobs, even family.
I have had a few instances in my life where my spiritual growth (which has taught me to stand up for myself, and not let fear of loss rule my life) has caused a loss of friendship. And though I have great love in my heart for those who are no longer a part of my life, I do realize it is a gift. As you can only have true loving relationships with honesty. And the phrase ‘the truth hurts’ is accurate, but it is also a chance to heal. Giving one a chance to heal is love.
We all make mistakes in our life….ones we deeply pay for…sometimes the mistakes become life-changing. But there are lessons for all. What is your lesson in your current relationship? When you examine this honestly with yourself, and choose love, you can only be a more beautiful reflection on others, and a magnificent imprint on this earth.