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Am I Happy?

posted 8 May 2015, 05:06 by Tim Elliston   [ updated 14 May 2015, 06:12 ]
By Andi Evans

Yesterday I treated myself to a pedicure, and the woman giving me the pedi (Anna--we’ll call her) asked me what I do. That is a loaded question, because I do so much. We all do so much. I told her that I am a spokesperson for happiness, faith and optimism...which in essence is what I am. I can imagine myself waving a flag and standing up for the rights of these three musketeers! Anna then asked me if I am happy. And my answer was, sometimes.

The one thing I know for sure about me is that I am honest. Not always with myself, but with others...for sure. So I told Anna the truth. I am not always happy. I do experience happiness quite a lot, which is why I feel guided to represent Happy. By nature, I am an optimistic person. I do always see the glass half full, the beauty in the rainy day, the gift in a cancelled vacation or failed project. But I do not always feel happy. And I embrace it. I realize that to truly feel happy, I have to experience unhappiness. I have to understand how I made the journey, what transpired, embrace my feelings, and learn from this awareness. If I allow myself to glaze over things that are unhappy and sweep them under the rug, I am only kidding myself. I am in denial. Whatever I chose to ignore will come back and bite me in the ass at some point if I don’t allow myself to feel the feelings that go along with unhappiness, and discover the truth about myself.

Each experience in life is designed to teach us a lesson. Sometimes it takes quite a while to figure out what the lesson is. If we don’t take the time to nurture our feelings and discover the meaning, we will be challenged again by a similar situation until we make the necessary changes for our own personal growth. In essence, if we ignore the things that make us unhappy, chances are we are ignoring an important opportunity to experience our authentic self.

Life throws us a lot of un-expected punches. And it is our job to respond to them, and not fall over! It is our job to recognize the gift of each situation, and embrace the opportunity to get closer to our true self. I am grateful for all of the punches life has thrown me, and hope I am doing a good job responding, learning, making the necessary changes to experience my truth, and being more honest with myself.

Andi Evans